Alternative relationships - all the hundreds of options beyond lifelong monogamy - are more in the public eye than ever before, and a huge number of people are opening their minds and hearts to such options. Yet even the best-meaning adventurers grew up in a culture that values monogamy over all other forms, which means that few of us have built-in skills for navigating our options with self-awareness, good ethics and empathy. Kate has written the perfect primer for anticipating and coping with the inevitable roadblocks that most of us experience along the road to the relationships we want. Clear, direct and well informed, this is an excellent book for explorers and would-be explorers of the pathways that lie off the edges of our culture’s tidy Ozzie-and-Harriet map.

A deeply compassionate book that offers grounded, somatic, practical skills for navigating non-monogamy. Kate Loree's depth of knowledge and experience creates an accessible, thoughtful, jam-packed guide to attachment styles, communication practices, coping with triggers, and healing old wounds. The stories she shares from real people are honest, raw, and enlightening. I feel like I got two years worth of therapy with a seriously gifted therapist by reading this book! Relationship styles have evolved over the decades, and Open Deeply is the book we need now to nurture conscious, loving connections.

This is the book every consensually non-monogamous person has been waiting for! Going well beyond the basics, Open Deeply is a practical guide for navigating the messy, tender, imperfect parts of open relationships. Factors like attachment style, mental health, coping strategies, societal conditioning, and trauma impact non-monogamous partners in unique ways. Kate Loree channeled her unparalleled insight and wisdom as a sex-positive therapist to create this groundbreaking relationship book written entirely through the lens of non-monogamy. She shares actionable strategies for compassionate communication, self-understanding, breaking unhealthy patterns, and decoding root causes of conflict. No more having to retrofit monogamy-specific advice to polyamorous situations. We finally have a resource for building healthy, fulfilling, sustainable multiple relationships that’s specifically for us!

HOLY SH*T! I wish this was around twenty years ago! Consensual Non-Monogamy is not a new concept, but never before has there been such a comprehensive guide to help people fully understand it and navigate their individual journey. After we cast away societal norms and eschew the outdated ideology of what a “traditional” relationship looks like, we are met with infinite partner possibilities- yet no prior blueprint existed to guide us. Kate has gifted us with her research and lived experience to explain the basics and to also help the reader understand how it actually works, with a deep dive into an exploration of self that facilitates an awareness of trust, compassion, communication, while also helping us readjust when something goes wrong. In a world where the prevalence of “alternative” relationships is emerging at lightning speed, Open Deeply is a long-awaited foundational tool for a lifetime of loving ourselves and others.

Couples and individuals are exploring all the creative ways of relationshipping, no longer only considering the option of monogamy.  Loree’s work offers a guide, using her own story along with her years of clinical experience, to aid readers towards a better understanding of relationships led with ethics and research, but also with love and care. Few books understand the importance of attachment theory for building multiple, or singular, long term sustainable relationships.  Open Deeply honors all relationships as meaningful and legitimate, while addressing benefits and challenges of both monogamy and open relationships.  Always brilliant, and always with compassion, Loree reminds us that true love is about freedom, and with that freedom comes a much deeper love.

Open Deeply is BRILLIANT! As much as it is for anyone who wants to explore consensual non-monogamy, this book is also for any relationship that could use a tune-up or tune-in. Plus, Open Deeply should be on every mental health professional’s must-read list. Full of insights and examples that will help you feel empowered to navigate any form of relationship model with compassion and understanding, Open Deeply is the non-monogamy book we all need to read right now.

Although a growing number of adults are recognizing the benefits of consensually non-monogamous or open relationships, there are very few resources to utilize when it comes to navigating through this non-traditional and explorative territory. The author uses experiences from her own life to provide proof of success to go with the tips and tricks she provides in this book. Non-monogamy can be a wild ride, and Open Deeply is here to make it a great one.