Specialties

My personal storyPrivately, I’ve been connected to poly, swing and kink communities since 2003 and understands the hurdles, massive emotional growth, and amazing joy these worlds can provide. During this time, I’ve experienced a vast array of relationship models from swinging to poly and every hybrid in between. All of these experiences have helped inform my therapeutic approach, so that my clients don’t have to learn the hard way, but rather can go forth from an informed place with enhanced confidence.

ProfessionallyI’ve also been a therapist since 2003, and along the way, I’ve absorbed the wisdom of the top relationship therapists across the world. Unfortunately, their lens is often conservative and does not consider the clients that come to me. As a solution, I have repurposed their knowledge through an open minded, flexible lens informed by my own theories and experiences. I have then combined this fusion with the knowledge from the top cutting edge sex positive educators in the United States. And finally, I funnel this secret sauce to my clients to help them find the relationship model and the relationship agreements that work for them.

With that said, my commitment is to help you find your authentic truth. I don’t have a bias towards non-monogamy. I have many clients who are from other alternative sex communities, such as the kink community, who are happily monogamous with their partner. If you are content with your relationship model, I’m not going to try to fix that which is not broken. And often I work with couples in which one client is extremely excited about non-monogamy and the other is scared. This is all okay and common. I’m here to meet you exactly where you are.

ApproachI understand that non-monogamy can poke at our unresolved attachment injuries. Partners who don’t feel secure within the relationship may fear being left, betrayed or disrespected. Partners who don’t feel free within the relationship may feel that their ideal non-monogamous dream is being hampered by an anxious partner. And last, unhealed wounds from the past can become amplified, projected onto our partner, and played out in painful ways.

Through an attachment focused, trauma informed lens, I help all parties involved feel heard, seen and validated. I use my communication model called EPIC to facilitate this process. Previous communication models teach empathy and validation, but they fail to inform the reader that if you are too emotionally upset and consequently dysregulated in your body, their communication model is unlikely to work. My communication approach addresses this issue by weaving somatic grounding into the whole communication process which enhances your ability to think clearly and make wise choices for yourself and your relationship. During this process, I will teach you somatic grounding skills, but you will also learn how to ground each other. A byproduct of grounding each other is an enhanced sense of love, warmth, and connection. My approach ends with a compassionate focus on problem solving that is informed by Buddhist teachings.

Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) is a legal, FDA-approved therapeutic modality that blends the neurobiological power of ketamine with the depth and precision of psychotherapy. It is especially supportive for those navigating trauma, anxiety, depression, relational wounds, or patterns that feel “stuck” despite previous therapy.

Ketamine temporarily softens rigid defenses, quiets fear responses, and increases neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to form new, more flexible pathways. When combined with trauma-informed therapy, this creates a unique window in which old patterns can be released and new perspectives, insights, and self-compassion can emerge.

Many clients describe the experience as a sense of spaciousness, clarity, or gentle detachment that makes difficult material easier to process without overwhelm. Others describe it as reconnecting to something deeper: intuition, inner wisdom, or a more grounded sense of self.

Why I Combine EMDR with KAPAlthough KAP can be powerful on its own, I find that pairing ketamine with EMDR creates an even more accelerated and integrative healing process. Together, these therapies can increase neuroplasticity (allowing the brain to reorganize old trauma patterns), reduce emotional intensity (making it easier to access and work through deeply stored material), bypass defenses that may interfere with traditional talk therapy, accelerate EMDR processing (often creating breakthroughs in fewer sessions), and restore self-compassion and clarity, even in places that once felt hopeless or chronic. For many clients, especially those with treatment-resistant symptoms, this combination can open a path forward where other modalities have fallen short.

A Somadelic Approach to Psychedelic HealingBecause my work is body-based and intuitive, KAP becomes more than a biochemical experience. It becomes an opportunity to reconnect with your body’s truth, expand your emotional and relational capacity, release outdated conditioning, deepen intuition, and cultivate felt connection to self, others, and the whole. Psychedelic work is not about “fixing.” It’s about remembering who you are beneath the trauma.

Since 2011, the percentage of my clients who are professional Dommes, Escorts and Porn Performers and/or their loved ones continues to grow. Most of my adult industry clients love their profession and come to therapy for unrelated reasons. It’s not uncommon for porn performers to lovingly refer to their co-workers as their “porn family”. I respect those relationships and realize they are resources for the client. That said, couples in the industry or mixed couples (professional and “civilian”) have unique challenges that I understand and can help with. You needn’t feel that finding a therapist who gets you is impossible anymore. And I’m not the only one. There are many sex positive therapists who can offer support. Please see the APAC stamp approved therapists list or pineapple support to find stigma free therapy.