Open Deeply
A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships
I dedicate this book to all those who resonate with a love language that is beyond Chapman's famous five - a love language that includes freedom, curiosity, adventure, and authentic choice.
Nearly one in five Americans has practiced consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives, and acceptance of open relationships continues to grow, particularly among younger generations. Yet navigating consensual non-monogamy remains challenging, and truly evidence-informed, attachment-focused guidance is still surprisingly rare.
Picking up where CNM self-help books like Polysecure and The Ethical Slut, leave off, Open Deeply tackles the most difficult challenges posed by CNM. Therapist Kate Loree—who has practiced non-monogamy since 2003, and who specializes in treating clients who also practice non-monogamy—pulls no punches as she uses vignettes based on her own life, as well as her clients’ experiences, to illustrate the highs, lows, and in-betweens of life as a consensual non-monogamist. Interwoven with these stories are thorough explanations of how attachment theory impacts non-monogamy, how blending cutting-edge, neurobiology-informed grounding skills with effective communication skills will make even the most challenging conversations regarding non-monogamy manageable, and more. The result is a compassionate, attachment-focused template for non-monogamy that will allow readers to avoid pitfalls and find adventure while concurrently building healthy relationships.
Non-monogamy is a wild and woolly ride—and Open Deeply is here to help make it a great one.
“Clear, direct and well informed, this is an excellent book for explorers and would-be explorers of the pathways that lie off the edges of our culture's tidy Ozzie-and-Harriet map.”
“A deeply compassionate book that offers grounded, somatic, practical skills for navigating non-monogamy. I feel like I got two years worth of therapy with a seriously gifted therapist by reading this book!”
“This is the book every consensually non-monogamous person has been waiting for! Going well beyond the basics, Open Deeply is a practical guide for navigating the messy, tender, imperfect parts of open relationships. Factors like attachment style, mental health, coping strategies, societal conditioning, and trauma impact non-monogamous partners in unique ways. Kate Loree channeled her unparalleled insight and wisdom as a sex-positive therapist to create this groundbreaking relationship book written entirely through the lens of non-monogamy.”
“HOLY SH*T! I wish this was around twenty years ago! Consensual Non-Monogamy is not a new concept, but never before has there been such a comprehensive guide to help people fully understand it and navigate their individual journey. In a world where the prevalence of “alternative” relationships is emerging at lightning speed, Open Deeply is a long-awaited foundational tool for a lifetime of loving ourselves and others.”
“Loree's work offers a guide, using her own story along with her years of clinical experience, to aid readers towards a better understanding of relationships led with ethics and research, but also with love and care. Always brilliant, and always with compassion, Loree reminds us that true love is about freedom, and with that freedom comes a much deeper love.”
“Open Deeply is BRILLIANT! As much as it is for anyone who wants to explore consensual non-monogamy, this book is also for any relationship that could use a tune-up or tune-in. Plus, Open Deeply should be on every mental health professional’s must-read list.”
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ISBN 978-1647423353
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